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Posted by CenCal Five0 (Member # 10533) on :
 
Well unfortunately my relationship with my spouse of 9 years has come to an end! I'm lost on what's next.. How do you move on from something thats a huge part of someones life. Sorry guys for the rant just alot on my mind! PLEASE KEEP YOUR STUPID REMARKS TO YOUR SELF....Thanks
 
Posted by DIRTY SALLY (Member # 7845) on :
 
[Frown]

[ March 04, 2012, 11:46 PM: Message edited by: DIRTY SALLY ]
 
Posted by Infamous5.0 (Member # 1745) on :
 
Any children? Anyone cheat?
 
Posted by CenCal Five0 (Member # 10533) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by Infamous5.0:
Any children? Anyone cheat?
We have a 4 year old daughter and no cheating on her or my behalf...
 
Posted by RONIN (Member # 9987) on :
 
That sucks bro.... Hang in there
 
Posted by 03smknsvt (Member # 5514) on :
 
Sorry to hear that man..its never easy to getting over something like that..but just keep busy and I know as stupid as it may sound just try not to think about it. Time heals everything
 
Posted by SydeWaySix (Member # 3596) on :
 
Damn bro, sorry to hear that. I'm sure it's tough, especially with a child, but life goes on. Keep moving and find ways to better yourself for the next potential gf/wife. Good luck and keep your head up [patriot]
 
Posted by adower (Member # 5955) on :
 
Hopefully you've got some good friends to help you get out and not think about it too much.
 
Posted by 89bluenotch (Member # 7454) on :
 
Sorry man! Never easy to deal with.
 
Posted by fredfifty (Member # 10320) on :
 
sorry to hear that...i suppose just try and be friends, for your daughters sake....hope it works out...

[ March 05, 2012, 12:22 AM: Message edited by: fredfifty ]
 
Posted by fstryde3 (Member # 8436) on :
 
Basically you have to focus on the kid and yourself, what else can you really do but move on? It isn't and won't be easy but again your kid and you are reasons to be happy.
 
Posted by CenCal Five0 (Member # 10533) on :
 
Thanks fellas. Im trying to do what I can to keep my mind off it Sucks big time! And yeah we are trying to be civil about the whole situation for our daughter...
 
Posted by blue95gt (Member # 9798) on :
 
shit sucks man. had my girl cheat on me while i was on deployment. never a good time.
 
Posted by Camara90 (Member # 134) on :
 
Sorry to hear that bro, but make sure you keep notes about your daughter. Trust me, I know. Everything is cool until you meet someone else and now she wants to control that persons relationship with your daughter.I hope it all works out, but just write everything down. Time you have with your daughter, money spent etc..
 
Posted by 1Sicgt (Member # 714) on :
 
I've been there man. Whatever you do, do not bad mouth your ex around your daughter. Let her see things for what they are. My kids know what's real and that's why they always want to stay with me. Mine only see my ex every other weekend and then for an hour after school. They know my place is home, and that they do see their mom, and it is what it is there. Just for your sanity don't fight over who gets what. It's easier to let it go, be the bigger person and start over clean. You'll be ok.
 
Posted by arodeast408 (Member # 11335) on :
 
Sorry to hear that man sometimes ppl just grow out of the feelings they once had but I always say God has reason for everything he does. I would recommend to keep busy n do everything possible for your daughter cause she is the one that needs lots of attention now, cause a split is never an easy thing for anyone especially the kids. But I wish u the best of luck n hopefully u never know maybe time apart can make old feelings come back but no matter wat always keep your head up life goes on man
 
Posted by iron50 (Member # 11231) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by SydeWaySix:
Damn bro, sorry to hear that. I'm sure it's tough, especially with a child, but life goes on. Keep moving and find ways to better yourself for the next potential gf/wife. Good luck and keep your head up [patriot]
+1 keep your head up
 
Posted by slocobra (Member # 6311) on :
 
Man that sucks, but if you are able to remain civil for the child, it will turn out ok. i was in the same boat 5 years ago. My wife of 13 years decided to stray and she had to go, cant forgive that.

if you took out the kids part of everything at least for me it was a blessing anyhow. 5 years later now, re-married to a great gal that is 3 times the woman my ex was. looking back on it all it really was the best option probably since kids are damaged more watching mom and dad fight than they ever would be with them seperated.

Hang in there, the first 6 months to year is horrible, but after that your negative feelings (hers and yours) will subside and youll probably start working together alot better in the parenting roles.
 
Posted by anderthizzle (Member # 7910) on :
 
Man I went threw the same thing me and my wife was together for 11 years and have 4 daughters. It was the worst time of my life. Time heals all wounds how much time is up to you. Hopefully it don't tAke as long as it took me to get my life back on track. But just keep busy like friends family a hobby anything to keep you from thinking about things. It will get better. Just take it one day at a time.
 
Posted by 91blackonblack (Member # 11591) on :
 
My mom always told me to think about the flaws she had an what you didnt like an that will get you thru the day.then next thing you kno itll be months that has gone bye.after a while youll start getting stronger.hang in there.youll be okay.the most important thing is those kids seeing you guys not breaking a sweat or arguing.they are first.things dont last forever.hang tough.ford tough.if you need anybody to talk to pm me.itll help me aswell as you.

[ March 05, 2012, 03:01 AM: Message edited by: 91blackonblack ]
 
Posted by nasty93 (Member # 8935) on :
 
gotta stay busy and maybe get u another project..and take it one day at a time.dont regret the past and dont trip on the future..
 




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