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Posted by Pure Stang (Member # 7251) on :
 
Has anyone ever had one, either helping or being helped? If so is it effective? I got a vary close friend of mine the was diagnosed with Cirrhosis. I never noticed how much he drinks because i work most of the time and when we do hang out we drink. never thought it was a big deal until this came up. Doctor told him if he keeps this up he will have 6-12 months. if he stops and takes care of himself he can live longer. This is why i want to do an intervention, but not sure how to come about it. how many people what to say ect.. We have a huge group of friends and a lot of family, but not sure if we should just be a few or a the more the better? I never ask for outside help, but in this case im not sure what to do. If you dont not have a helping comment you just want to talk nonsense please do not post. This is a serious matter for a lot of people.

PS his family still does not know what is going on. Thanks you for any input
 
Posted by 1RaW93SvT (Member # 9151) on :
 
i would get a bunch of people friends/family together and get him there some how and just let it all out tell him/her how you feel and how much you care about them and love them and tell him/her you want it to stop so you can be around him/her longer and ect.ect. the key also is being really firm about the situation and how seious it is and tell this person if he/she does not stop the friendship/relationship will go out the window.. make it to were the person will loose alot if he/she does not stop.. key is being very firm and striaght forward and making the person realize what they will loose if the addiction does not stop.. you have to stop drinking with the person... set and example also.. thats just my opinion and what i would do if i was in your shoes.. talk it over with family/friends before acting on it and make it happen.. thats my advice i wish you luck with your situation and hope for the best!!!! [patriot] [patriot]
 
Posted by Pure Stang (Member # 7251) on :
 
Thank you for the response. [patriot]
 
Posted by ls1 miguel (Member # 10053) on :
 
I've been dealing with a family member who has the same problem. I think you should approach him by your self first and offer him moral support bcus hes gonna need tons of it to stop his addiction
 
Posted by Pure Stang (Member # 7251) on :
 
just came back from his house. had a talk one on one. he seems to understand, but not sure for how long.
 
Posted by Secnd2nun64 (Member # 1431) on :
 
If your serious about doing this, hire a professional that actually has experience doing interventions. That way it doesn't blow up on you and has a chance of working.
 
Posted by essasin (Member # 4741) on :
 
I think you should seek professional help. If the certainty of death is not stopping him there is an underlying problem that needs to be addressed.
 
Posted by clone nprogrss (Member # 10342) on :
 
yea my pops was 2 steps 4rm having that happen 2 him and tha sad part is alot of them dont realize the damage they r doin to themselves til they r in bad shape!! n it almost took my parents splitting up and my mom threatining him wit custody shit 4 him 2 realize the damage to himself n us!!try mayb not drinking round him and doin different things when u guys r kickin it that way he will c there r other things to do than just drinking with him!! and he wont get tired of u telling him over n over not 2 drink!!
 
Posted by wilit (Member # 3367) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by Secnd2nun64:
If your serious about doing this, hire a professional that actually has experience doing interventions. That way it doesn't blow up on you and has a chance of working.
+1. You need to get some professional help because they have a lot more experience with this. Had a family member addicted to heroin. Family interventions just didn't work.
 
Posted by Pure Stang (Member # 7251) on :
 
Ill look into a professional. even after our talk last night i called him up not to long ago and he started drinking already.
 
Posted by N8 (Member # 6048) on :
 
My wife just went through this with her father (whom ultimately passed away) and is dealing with it with her sister. I really do not have much to offer except, be very firm in your decisions. Interventions are usually about accountability, facts and consequences. If you tell the person B and C are gonna happen if you continue to do A, stick with it. Alcoholism is a disease, and you will be surprised at how loved ones can be co-dependents of a person that is dependent. So keep an eye for those that facilitate the behavior. My wifes father was to the point where they said he would live longer if he continued to drink. So yea it is a hard thing to deal with. Prayer helps as well. Show the person love, but also show them tough love. There are plenty of groups out there that can provide you some professional help. Also look into Hospice groups or facilities for information.

Good luck and God bless. He is lucky to have person like you in his life that cares enough to even look into this.
 
Posted by Pure Stang (Member # 7251) on :
 
Thanks N8 [patriot]
 
Posted by fasthatch (Member # 7277) on :
 
i had to do this when i was younger if your going to step an do it rember be about you word if say if keeps drinking you won't kick with him anymore mean it.an it hard to do trust me on that one
 




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