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Posted by turbo50 (Member # 6700) on :
 
Need some sound advice.

This is not a huge deal from a monetary stand point, however , it is a huge deal from an ideals stand point.

Here is the scenario:

Buyer comes over to pick up some stock parts to include a radiator and a timing cover.

Buyer says I will pass on the radiator. Seller asks why. Buyer says it looks plugged up. Seller knows for a fact that this radiator was in a car for two weeks only, however, it did sit for 2 years so maybe that is why it looked gummed up to them. Seller knows damn well it will work great. So seller lets buyer take the radiator and seller says if the radiator works for you just send me the $20 for it.

Seller also has another board member there as a witness to this.

Buyer is happy with the timing cover that is cleaned up and looks brand new with a brand new seal for $20.

Two weeks go by. Seller pms buyer's friend who brought the buyer there and vouched for him and advised of his own screen name at time of introduction, because he does not know buyer's screen name, if at all, and asks how the radiator worked out. Buyer's friend says not sure I will ask him.

Another week goes by. Seller pms buyer's friend and says did you get to speak with him yet. Buyer's friend says, no. But I will.

Another week goes by and seller pms buyer's friend and still....haven't heard from him.

Another week goes by and seller pms buyer's friend on a regular basis and now hears nothing no response at all....but knows he got the pms because cafords advised you when someone reads your pms.

Should I chalk it?

Should I no longer extend any courtesy to any fellow automotive enthusiast?

Put buyer's friends screen name on blast?

Ask for buyer's friends phone number and call him?

Ask buyer's friend , if this is a good friend of yours then why can't you get a hold of him or atleast tell me you can't?

Ask buyer's friend, if this is not a good friend of yours then why would you bring him over to a fellow board members place of residence and then vouch for him?


Here is my take on it:

I'll chalk it.

This is a small community this cafords community and I will see him again and get to ask him in person, that I am sure of. But in the meantime, it would be simple enough to just lie to me and say yeah that radiator was a piece of shit like we thought so we tossed it.

Or say yeah it worked great like you said it was and the $20 is in the mail.

Or to say, you are a punk and we took your radiator and have been whipping dee nuts in every town from here to frisco without overheating

SOMETHING, shit...

But to just cut a motha off and not respond to him period....that is just weak....

[ July 15, 2009, 12:32 PM: Message edited by: turbo50 ]
 
Posted by 5.0-srt-4 (Member # 5864) on :
 
dan, right when you said "if it works send me 20" his thought was"i just gotta free radiator"...too nice bro shoulda been the other way around..if the radiator dont work ill send you 20 in the mail.
 
Posted by turbo50 (Member # 6700) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by 5.0-srt-4:
dan, right when you said "if it works send me 20" his thought was"i just gotta free radiator"...too nice bro shoulda been the other way around..if the radiator dont work ill send you 20 in the mail.
Id love to treat all the fools with this mentality like I did those 3 fools at berryessa that year....

grrrr

grumble grumble grumble....

All you got in this world are your balls and your word!
 
Posted by CALIFORNIAGT (Member # 7845) on :
 
I WOULD PUT HIM ON BLAST THATS PRETTY MESSED FOR A NICE GUY like yourself! just to hand some a raditor and be like " if it works hand me some money for it"! lol i had a fellow cafords member come buy some springs from me he drove a pretty good distance to get them i was pulling them only saw 3 and was like fuck! so i handed him a set of lx tailights that i had layin around for free! deal went smooth after i found that 4 spring! but yea i would him on blast if didnt see any money soon! [patriot]
 
Posted by Jdub07 (Member # 2728) on :
 
I'd have wrote off the $20 for the radiator as soon as he left with it. Be glad if he ended up paying but accept the fact that he might not.

I've been in both situations...I said I'd pay later when picking something up and have said I'd take money later for letting something go. Both cases ended up good.

What you should have done was tell him you'll return his money if the radiator didn't work. Your the seller so to me that would have made more sence.
 
Posted by turbo50 (Member # 6700) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by CALIFORNIAGT:
I WOULD PUT HIM ON BLAST THATS PRETTY MESSED FOR A NICE GUY like yourself! just to hand some a raditor and be like " if it works hand me some money for it"! lol i had a fellow cafords member come buy some springs from me he drove a pretty good distance to get them i was pulling them only saw 3 and was like fuck! so i handed him a set of lx tailights that i had layin around for free! deal went smooth after i found that 4 spring! but yea i would him on blast if didnt see any money soon! [patriot]
Thanks for the advise.

It is not the money at this point. Matter of fact I am not sure I even want the money. I think it is more of the fact that I am getting more and more disappointed in people lately and the sad thing is I look up to my fellow car enthusiast and wouldn't expect this from them.....
 
Posted by 91silverbullet (Member # 8668) on :
 
Put him on blast... let everyone know who the P O S is...he deserves no respect from you..as he didnt respect you..
 
Posted by 427 StRoKeR 94 GT (Member # 8722) on :
 
Not even send the money threw the mail have him pay for it and if it doesn't work bring it back
I agree with you he should say yes it worked are no its a piece of shit and you can have it back [Big Grin]
 
Posted by 5.0-srt-4 (Member # 5864) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by turbo50:
quote:
Originally posted by 5.0-srt-4:
dan, right when you said "if it works send me 20" his thought was"i just gotta free radiator"...too nice bro shoulda been the other way around..if the radiator dont work ill send you 20 in the mail.
Id love to treat all the fools with this mentality like I did those 3 fools at berryessa that year....

grrrr

grumble grumble grumble....

All you got in this world are your balls and your word!
haha, cant do that bro got a lil one and a wife now....but i know what you mean. just hope dude comes through like a man
 
Posted by turbo50 (Member # 6700) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by Jdub07:
I'd have wrote off the $20 for the radiator as soon as he left with it. Be glad if he ended up paying but accept the fact that he might not.

I've been in both situations...I said I'd pay later when picking something up and have said I'd take money later for letting something go. Both cases ended up good.

What you should have done was tell him you'll return his money if the radiator didn't work. Your the seller so to me that would have made more sence.
Agreed. Next time this will be the case. A few people have recommended this.
 
Posted by 1SLOWLX (Member # 558) on :
 
Take it as a loss and don't help or deal with them anymore. Some people are just a pos. Some people are good to their word.
You figure it's his loss I know you usually have stuff people want or need and your always there to lend a hand to people.
 
Posted by 92sleeper (Member # 8789) on :
 
Personally I would call him out on here just so others know not to deal with that individual in the future.
 
Posted by 23109 (Member # 4347) on :
 
this is why i overcharge things... i will never have to deal with that guy. comes with the territory deal with cheap people better get used to it.

hell your a stand up guy for letting that dude go with that radiator.
 
Posted by Rigo5.0 (Member # 5247) on :
 
Sucks man.. def call him out.
And although it's only $20 bucks, it's about respect.

A man is only as good as his word...
 
Posted by 9cobra7 (Member # 2812) on :
 
Pretty sad someones gotta scab on a lousy 20 bucks that's pathetic, what a POS!
 
Posted by N93EXCHP (Member # 8741) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by 92sleeper:
Personally I would call him out on here just so others know not to deal with that individual in the future.
+1 Put his ass on BLAST!!!!
 
Posted by Cm4hawks (Member # 5231) on :
 
Just chalk it off. Thats why i give alot of shit away LOL Its not worth the head ache or the time life is too short. Also just be done with them. You know how people are now aday. In my opion you just can not count on people anymore. I have learned that the hard way.


quote:
Originally posted by turbo50:
quote:
Originally posted by CALIFORNIAGT:
I WOULD PUT HIM ON BLAST THATS PRETTY MESSED FOR A NICE GUY like yourself! just to hand some a raditor and be like " if it works hand me some money for it"! lol i had a fellow cafords member come buy some springs from me he drove a pretty good distance to get them i was pulling them only saw 3 and was like fuck! so i handed him a set of lx tailights that i had layin around for free! deal went smooth after i found that 4 spring! but yea i would him on blast if didnt see any money soon! [patriot]
Thanks for the advise.

It is not the money at this point. Matter of fact I am not sure I even want the money. I think it is more of the fact that I am getting more and more disappointed in people lately and the sad thing is I look up to my fellow car enthusiast and wouldn't expect this from them.....

 
Posted by 50 Deep (Member # 6216) on :
 
I wanna know who it was so I know who not to buy/sell too.
 
Posted by Beasty5.0 (Member # 2935) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by Cm4hawks:
Just chalk it off. Thats why i give alot of shit away LOL Its not worth the head ache or the time life is too short. Also just be done with them. You know how people are now aday. In my opion you just can not count on people anymore. I have learned that the hard way.
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Charles, I could not agree more with your statement. People don't know how much keeping their word should mean now and days. Before, I would always give people the benefit of the doubt and believed that people were good in their hearts, but I have met so many bullshitters in my life that it has made me change the way I perceive people. But luckily God now and then blesses with meeting good people who redeem my belief.


Dan, being that I was the one there and can confirm that it went down exactly as indicated above, I would say to just let it go. I know it pisses you off that you extended someone your kindness, but unfortunately it was taken for granted. Eventually people like that meet up with a good friend named Karma.
 
Posted by SHOalex (Member # 7720) on :
 
Think of it as you payed $20 to never have to deal with this guy or ever have to do him a favor and by putting his name out their your doing all of us a huge favor so we dont learn the hard way like you had to sux man sorry to hear that
 
Posted by Luke87GT (Member # 21) on :
 
why are you dealing with the buyer's friend?

and you know, this comes down to integrity. I would have sent you the $20 if I ended up using the radiator.

But you should let this one go and never hand over parts for free that you expect to get money for.

Chaulk it up as a lesson.
 
Posted by 8stang8 (Member # 8082) on :
 
"Check the PURSE, before you check the HOE" [patriot]
 
Posted by scoop510 (Member # 8726) on :
 
i say put him on FRONT ST because he apparently left u out to dry [patriot]
 
Posted by GOT 50 (Member # 1960) on :
 
Sorry to hear this happend. I went to buy heads and itake + T body from a memebr here and came up short 60 bucks. Got the guys info and mailed the check out th next day.

Shit like this needs to stop. I am the same way. I still give people the benifit of teh doubt that they are going to do the right thing.
 
Posted by autumnstang97 (Member # 6111) on :
 
Call him out that cheap ass...I'd like to trust other CA members in this community but then u get some that always spoils it...
 
Posted by Luke87GT (Member # 21) on :
 
As I said, I would not expect to get any money from a stranger under these circumstances, but at the same time, it would not hurt to know who he is.

I am sure the other party would have a different side of the story however.

Usually there you are two sides to every story. Your side, His side, and the truth somewhere in the middle.
 
Posted by 86- 50 (Member # 4723) on :
 
Put him on blast. I hate when shaddy shit happens to good people [Mad] , Dan personally gave me a shit load of parts and went out of his way to help me out and i'm sure many others. Dan is one of the good dudes on CA [patriot] FORDS
 
Posted by liftedF150 (Member # 868) on :
 
well you have given him more then enough time and also you know for a fact that he has read your PM's so I would chalk it up but I would def post his name so other people dont get put in the same situation...
 
Posted by MikeD. (Member # 8060) on :
 
Your proabably the last motherfucker I would pull some shit like that on. Chalk it up bro, its all you really can do. Just don't trust anyone you really dont know from now on. Seems you can only trust family now days and even then you still get burned. I may be young, but I still know the meaning of a hand shake a mans word.

[ July 15, 2009, 09:36 PM: Message edited by: MikeD. ]
 
Posted by 90FoX (Member # 1974) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by MikeD.:
Seems you can only trust family now days and even then you still get burned.
Still get burned.... [patriot]
 
Posted by LX306hatch (Member # 9151) on :
 
put that fool on blast! it sucks that you were hella nice and some faget ass girl just takes advantage of a cool guy in the ca fords community! call his ass out that lil cheap ass mother..... you know what if i had 20 on me right now i would mail it to you righ now just for being hella real!
 
Posted by TR1 (Member # 296) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by 92sleeper:
Personally I would call him out on here just so others know not to deal with that individual in the future.
Yep that would help us all...

Go Dan Go!
 
Posted by turbo50 (Member # 6700) on :
 
Wow it is the craziest thing. The guy buyers friend pm'd me tonight and said that the radiator worked great. Asked me how much I wanted for it.

I said $20 and gave him my address. Lucky me!

Looks like I get to restore my faith in people!!

Yes!!!!
 
Posted by 90FoX (Member # 1974) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by turbo50:
Wow it is the craziest thing. The guy buyers friend pm'd me tonight and said that the radiator worked great. Asked me how much I wanted for it.

I said $20 and gave him my address. Lucky me!

Looks like I get to restore my faith in people!!

Yes!!!!
Lol either that or they seen the post and were like fuck people are going to know we fucked him over and we better make it right..


Either way I hope you get your money bro. Good luck
[patriot]
 
Posted by turbo50 (Member # 6700) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by 90FoX:
quote:
Originally posted by turbo50:
Wow it is the craziest thing. The guy buyers friend pm'd me tonight and said that the radiator worked great. Asked me how much I wanted for it.

I said $20 and gave him my address. Lucky me!

Looks like I get to restore my faith in people!!

Yes!!!!
Lol either that or they seen the post and were like fuck people are going to know we fucked him over and we better make it right..


Either way I hope you get your money bro. Good luck
[patriot]
Yeah not really about the money but I am glad it looks like maybe they were stunned and realize they were doing wrong and want to come correct!

Sometimes folks just need a little light shed their way I suppose.
 
Posted by 90FoX (Member # 1974) on :
 
quote:
Originally posted by turbo50:
quote:
Originally posted by 90FoX:
quote:
Originally posted by turbo50:
Wow it is the craziest thing. The guy buyers friend pm'd me tonight and said that the radiator worked great. Asked me how much I wanted for it.

I said $20 and gave him my address. Lucky me!

Looks like I get to restore my faith in people!!

Yes!!!!
Lol either that or they seen the post and were like fuck people are going to know we fucked him over and we better make it right..


Either way I hope you get your money bro. Good luck
[patriot]
Yeah not really about the money but I am glad it looks like maybe they were stunned and realize they were doing wrong and want to come correct!

Sometimes folks just need a little light shed their way I suppose.
More about principle, I agree.

I also feel the same way about a persons word. Lots of people are losing integrity these days.

When I say I'm going to do something, you better believe I'm going to do it. But not everyone is like that.

Was probably a good idea not to out them because if the reason they contacted you was because this post then they may have been like fuck him, he already outted us. hahah

[Whoo Whooooo!]
 
Posted by MikeD. (Member # 8060) on :
 
Right on bro! Im sure they saw the post and there concious came in to play.. woah.. I just though of dr. dre and eminem.. sweet.
 
Posted by CALIFORNIAGT (Member # 7845) on :
 
right on for getting your money! look to see if had an update got paid
 
Posted by Daniel50 (Member # 5629) on :
 
thats a damn shame. and this is why the good people out there dont trust anyone anymore. people that do shit like this are just scum. they go through life trying to get whatever they can out of whoever they can.
 




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